Moodiness and rebellion are normal teen behaviors. So how do you spot possible psychological problems that can lead to serious trouble — substance abuse, eating disorders, criminal behavior, depression, even suicide?
Look for change. Changes in peer group or friends. Sudden changes in behavior such as extreme moodiness, sleeping more and withdrawal from family and normal activities. Changes in energy or motivation. Changes in eating, weight, food choices, or evidence of vomiting. Changes in school grades, as in failing a number of subjects.
More signs to look for: Loss of interest in appearance or personal hygiene. Giving things away, or willing things to friends, can be part of a suicidal tendency.
Trust your instincts. If you just have the feeling that your teen is having problems or that things have changed, you may be right. Talk to someone — the teen's health care provider, a school counselor or therapist.
Better yet, talk to your teen first. In your approach, avoid being accusatory. Instead of starting with Are you taking drugs? — just say I'm concerned. Offer more listening than talking.
Parenting a teenager takes work and attention. You may find you need to become even more involved and watchful than you were during the toddler years. Not easy when teens often appear completely taken with their peers and disdainful of adults. But, just like toddlers, teens need parents who remain loving, understanding and consistent, no matter how contrary your relationship appears.
Source: Group Health's Teen Health Services